Archive for June, 2011

With my father
I would watch dawn
over green fields.
by Kobayashi Issa

Lately I’ve been noticing more and more a growing number of dads picking up their kids from daycare and school. They’re on the subway, on the bus, in the street giving them an afternoon nap in their strollers, playing with them in the local park. It fills my heart with joy to see all the fathers so involved in their children’s lives. It used to be – at least it was when I was growing up – that Mom did that while Dad went to work. But I think this way is better – in fact, it’s been proven.

According to a Father Involvement for Healthy Child Outcomes: Partners Supporting Knowledge Development and Transfer (April 10, 2007) by Jessica Ball, M.P.H., Ph.D. and Ken Moselle, Ph.D., there is a lot of research proving the impacts of a father’s involvement on children.

Father’s involvement results in:

  • Enhanced Cognitive functioning and higher IQ
  • Better academic achievement
  • School connectedness
  • Higher educational attainment
  • Resiliency
  • Lower levels of depression
  • Life satisfaction
  • Self-acceptance/higher self-esteem
  • Less stress
  • Attachment
  • Supportive social networks
  • Positive peer relations
  • Empathy
  • Conformity to rules, conventions, values ethical standards
  • Less delinquent behaviour

The above is a summary of research conducted by Allen and Daly (2002) and Ball and Pedersen (2004). Source: www.fira.ca/cms/documents/123/PH_FI_Report_brief.pdf

So here’s to the Dads who’re making better people out of our children.

And no one is more deserving of thanks and respect than my husband, father to our beautiful 2.5 year old girl. Thank you, honey, for all you do for me and for our daughter. We need more Dads and husbands like you in this world!


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I contemplated calling this post, “Women of the East, Rise Up!” but I had to reconsider. I think women of the East, and I’m referring specifically to Middle Eastern women, have already risen up. They’ve already stood up and made public the injustices and the stigmas they have endured for years – despite incredible social and religious taboos, despite repercussions with spouses and family members, and despite government official resistance.

I’m thinking specifically about my sisters in Egypt who have endured torture and dehumanizing treatment at the hands of the Egyptian military in recent days. Egyptian women, standing side by side with their male counterparts, have taken part in the Tahrir Square revolution and the protests that led to the ouster of President Hosni Mubarak on February 11, 2011. In March 2011, some of these protestors returned to Tahrir Square in support of activists and protestors the military was holding and not releasing. Security forces, having banned protest of any kind to ensure a return to normalcy (another topic altogether), arrested some of the protestors and detained them in the Cairo Museum. According to Salwa Hosseini, one of the women protestors detained by security forces that day, 17 of the women were taken to a military prison, beaten, electrocuted and forced to take virginity tests. They were threatened that if their virginity was not in tact, they were going to face prostitution charges. Salwa Hosseini and other women protestors were given suspended one-year sentences for disorderly conduct, destroying private and public property, obstructing traffic and carrying weapons.

I can’t tell you how this makes my blood boil. The consequences of this kind of torture goes beyond physical and psychological, it’s also social. The stigma of being labeled or charged with prostitution in Egypt and other Arab countries is a sentence of social ostracism at best with potentially fatal consequences.

Forcing women to have ‘virginity tests’ is utterly unacceptable. Its purpose is to degrade women because they are women. All members of the medical profession must refuse to take part in such so-called ‘tests’.
Amnesty International

I am amazed by the courage of these women. It’s truly inspiring, the stuff of legends. But my question is this: Where is the outrage over these atrocities committed against women in Egypt? Aren’t women in Egypt the pillar of society – the mothers, the sisters, the caregivers? Is not Egypt herself lovingly called the Mother of the World?

I know that progressives, activists and academics are outraged and that’s good. But where is the “every day” man’s anger? Even my own father at first dismissed these women’s pleas as “petty grievances” some protestors had with the Armed Forces. If my father, a well-educated, middle-class man thinks this way, what must the millions of less educated men and women think?

I think there is some serious need for education and advocacy. I’ve been looking at a few organizations and I will be contacting them to see how an ex-pat can be of assistance to these issues.

Children of Egypt, Mother of the World, when will you stand up in outrage against what is done to the Daughters of Egypt? When will this revolution from oppression and tyranny translate into equality and freedom for women?

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